Best Clothing-Optional (Men-Only) Resorts in Gay Palm Springs
Staying "Gay" (at a gay resort) is optional in Palm Springs – and so is staying in your clothes. So why not experience the freedom of a clothing-optional gaycation in the most liberated, body-positive place on earth for men who love men?
*Updated: November 11, 2022
Staying "Gay" (at a gay resort) is optional in Palm Springs – and so is staying in your clothes. So why not experience the freedom of a clothing-optional gaycation in the most liberated, body-positive place on earth for men who love men?
Never stayed at a clothing optional gay resort before? Are you horrified at the very thought of a clothing-optional experience? I'm guessing the voyeur in you is at least curious about it or you wouldn't be here right now 😉
My advice to you is to just jump right in and stay clothing-optional so you can see for yourself how exhilarating it can be. Keep those boy shorts on for now if you must, but at least check out Inndulge's illuminating video collection of enticing tutorials to help you with your first clothing-optional experience.
Don't worry, I'll wait...
Ok, now that you're SOLD, here the Best Clothing-Optional (Men-Only) Resorts in Gay Palm Springs in our opinion (in alphabetical order)...
Home of "The Maze," All Worlds is more LA bath house than San Francisco sex club, but it straddles the two in true Palm Springs Warm Sands neighborhood fashion. They're always open and offer day passes if you want to join in on the fun.
The Canyon Club Hotel is the only gay men's resort in Downtown Palm Springs and it's a good choice if you're looking for more affordable rates too. They've got a saltwater pool, 16-man spa, and a garden oasis hedge maze for more secluded fun.
CCBC (Cathedral City Boys’ Club) Resort is the largest clothing optional Gay men’s resort in the Coachella Valley, located in the heart of Cat City. They are open 24/7 with a regular variety of special events, like CUMUNION sex parties and male bonding pop-up events, and even offer day (and night) passes for those who just wanna have a little fun.
Introducing Descanso – the first men’s resort to open in Palm Springs in over ten years. From the the guys who brought us Santiago Resort, it’s a newly reimagined blend of luxurious Hollywood Moderne meets California garden greenery.
In the center of Warm Sands, the Desert Paradise Resort hosts a large saltwater pool, newly expanded jacuzzi spa, steam and sauna rooms, romantic fire pit, and outdoor garden shower. Consider it your paradise in the desert.
Since 1975, El Mirasol Villas has been a destination resort for Gay Men in Palm Springs. Located in the Warm Sands neighborhood, its only blocks away from downtown.
The Hacienda is a popular and stylishly spacious gay resort in the heart of Warm Sands, Palm Springs’ gay Mecca.
25 years strong, Inndulge is a popular clothing-optional resort in Palm Springs, featuring a 12-man 24-hr jacuzzi and a 24-hour heated salt water pool. They've also got an enticing video collection on their website to help you with your first clothing-optional experience.
Santiago Resort is an intimate luxury getaway where gay men can rediscover the bliss of completely giving into the moment. This popular clothing-optional resort has a salt water pool – and for those who have yet to experience a salt water (saline) pool, you're in for real treat.
One of the top Gay Resorts in Palm Springs, the Triangle Inn offers sun-drenched tropical gardens and breathtaking mountain views for any experience – romantic and relaxing to fun and frisky.
From the same guys who brought us Santiago Resort, and the freshly minted Descanso Resort, Twin Palms Resort is the newest kid on the block. It’s a mid-century-made-modern experience draped in luxury and timeless style. And if it's anything like its brothers, it's sure to be a new favorite men’s resort in town.
Vista Grande Resort is a premium clothing optional gay men’s resort in Palm Springs, featuring 2 swimming pools, a hot tub, dry sauna, spacious steam room, and breathtaking waterfalls.
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Best Gay Nightlife in Palm Springs
Every bar in Palm Springs is a gay bar as far as we're concerned. That's the beauty of a town that caters to the gay experience, so no matter where we go here in Palm Springs, we're free to be who we are without question…
Every bar in Palm Springs is a gay bar as far as we're concerned. That's the beauty of a town that caters to the gay experience, so no matter where we go here in Palm Springs, we're free to be who we are without question.
The Arenas district is the gayborhood epicenter of all things Gay Palm Springs. And while there's plenty of fun to be had in the Arenas, there's even more fun to be had all over Palm Springs and Cathedral City (aka Cat City).
That said, even Stefan from SNL is excited about Palm Springs hottest night clubs, so here is the Best Gay Nightlife in Palm Springs in our opinion (in alphabetical order)...
AMP Sports Lounge's comfy Pink velvet benches sports a casual and festive atmosphere (see what I did there?). From sports wear to drag wear, everyone is welcome at AMP in Cat City.
Hosting the world’s most-attended Sunday Beer Bust and popular leather/kink events, Cat City's Barracks wildly popular leather & gear bar is as cruisy and boozy as they come.
Bar Cecil celebrate those who follow the beat to their own drum with an asthetic as creative and inspiring as their food and cocktails.
Winner of Desert Sun's Best Restaurant in 2020, Blackbook is a the real "chill bar" in the Arenas district as far as we're concerned. It's sleek industrial style also features the largest whiskey selection in Palm Springs.
Located in the same space as the original Don the Beachcomber restaurant that opened in 1953, Bootlegger Tiki serves up delicious tiki cocktails in an intimate speakeasy-style setting.
Boozehounds aims to provide a friendly environment for both canines and their humans. By day, they are a coffee, co-working, and lunch spot. By night, they are a perfect happy hour and dinner destination for the whole family.
The coolest (pun fully intended) gay bar and dance club here in Palm Springs, Chill Bar is another staple gay-borhood bar in our beloved Arenas district, featuring drag bingo, go-go boys, and our favotie disco-ball male statues (featured on The Palm Springs Guys website)!
Dead or Alive is an independent local beer and wine bar with an interior space that will have you wondering... "Am I dead or am I alive?" Go see for yourself, and you'll see why the owner Christine is as bad-ass as her wine selections.
The Eagle Bar wants you to cruise heavy, drink up, have a blast, get horny, find a ride, and come back for more. It's right in the Arenas district too.
Hunters is Palm Springs’ go-to gay bar and dance club fun for 20 years now. Featuring the longest happy hour in all the Valley, Hunters serves up drag shows, karaoke, and Djs that keep the dance floor pumping (loudly!) right in the Arenas district.
Formerly Studio One 11, One Eleven Bar has everything you need to enjoy a cocktail with old friends and then a second with new ones. They've got weekly drag shows, karaoke, and live local entertainment (they've even got a grand piano they wheel onto the stage). Always free and always a good time, One Eleven is our favorite bar in Cat City!
Oscar's has everything from dancing to live dinner entertainment in the heart of downtown Palm Springs. From drag brunch, to celebrity evening-with shows, to Oscar's signature T-Dance on Sundays, there's something for every gay!
PS Air Bar is a fun Airline-themed speakeasy inside the Bouschet wine store, featuring cocktails, dinner, naught flight attendants, and live entertainment on the weekends. You know we love a good theme bar!
Honoring the Rat Pack era, Michael Holmes’ Purple Room is the desert’s premier supper club and live performance space, featuring local and national jazz artists and the always popular, The Judy Show!, a parody of the great icons of the 60s.
This is our kind of "sports bar" because Quadz is a TV bar showing popular, classic & obscure music video clips that gay men just LOVE to sing along to in the Arenas district!
With plenty of atmosphere for all patrons “to roost,” the Roost Lounge in Cat City is a another friendly neighborhood gay bar with ongoing entertainment and karaoke.
Open since 1991, Streetbar is a neighborhood bar attracting locals and tourists. They specialize in Cabaret, Karaoke, and the strongest (cash-only) drinks on the block (but you didn't hear it from us)!
The only leather and Levi bar in Palm Springs, the Tool Shed serves up daily happy hours, heavy cruising, and fun theme nights like their signature Thursday night "Underwear Nights" in the Warm Sands district.
Formerly DIGS, Trunks has everything from country dancing to drag shows, Trunks Bar is where the spirits are high and the prices are low.
This mid-century lounge serves up boutique California wines, craft beers, and throwback cocktails. It's also a favorite destination for live music and drag performances, like Ross Mathew's "Dragtastic Bubbly Brunch".
Is Palm Springs Flirty or Dirty?
Is Palm Springs Flirty or Dirty? The short answer is both (and everything else you can and can't even imagine in between)! Everyone is here in Palm Springs for a good reason. Whether you've decided to retire here, vacation here, live here part-time or full-time, Palm Springs is a treasured destination for so many people. Everyone is here because they want to be – and that's a recipe for people who are a lot more pleasant to be around than the average community. Since gay men are practically the majority here at this point, there's a lot of fun to be had in the modern gay desert…
Is Palm Springs Flirty or Dirty? The short answer is both (and everything else you can and can't even imagine in between)! Read on, boys...
Everyone is here in Palm Springs for a good reason. Whether you've decided to retire here, vacation here, live here part-time or full-time, Palm Springs is a treasured destination for so many people. Everyone is here because they want to be – and that's a recipe for people who are a lot more pleasant to be around than the average community. Since gay men are practically the majority here at this point, there's a lot of fun to be had in the modern gay desert.
When a gay friend comes to Palm Springs for the first time, wondering what to do first, I like to ask, "Do you want something flirty or dirty?" In my experience, there is no third option. Everyone is excited to be here and eager to engage with what makes Palm Springs so special and unique. This inherent openness creates an ever-flirtatious dynamic all around – especially between gay men – that is as harmless as it is enticing.
Everyone flirts in Palm Springs. Drag queens flirt with you during at Ross Mathews Dragtastic Bubbly Brunch at V Wine Lounge. Store clerks flirt with you at GayMart USA as they help you pick out your new swimwear. You can flirt with the other boys in the pool at your clothing-optional resort. You can flirt with your waiter while you're having dinner at Eight4Nine Restaurant & Lounge. You can flirt with your bartenders at Hunters Palm Springs and all the boys along the way when you're barhopping throughout the Arenas District after dinner. And you can even flirt with the baristas at Koffi the next morning.
I've also quickly learned never to assume anything in this town. For instance, it seems to me that if you're a gay couple in Palm Springs, you are in some sort of open relationship unless proven otherwise (at least for the long weekend). That's the line where flirty meets dirty in my book because depending on the "vibe" of things, the new friends you just met 5 minutes ago sitting at the bar at Blackbook (my personal favorite social bar) might just invite you over to their place later that night to enjoy some more cocktails and naked pool time in their salt water saline pool. Did somebody say cock(tails)?
It's just as easy for flirty to go dirty should you choose. Palm Springs has over twenty (20) LGBTQIA+ resorts and guest houses, and at least 14 of them are gay clothing-optional resorts. Some of these clothing-optional resorts also offer day passes for men only, like All Worlds Resort in Palm Springs and CCBC Resort Hotel in Cathedral City (aka "Cat City" as the locals refer to it). Day passes (also available at night) at clothing-optional resorts for men only are the greater Palm Springs version of a gay bathhouse experience.
Of course, there's also some dirty fun to be had on the side here and there, like at the Barracks in Cat City or the Tool Shed in Palm Springs. They both host a variety of themed nights, like "Underwear Night" (Wednesday's at the Barracks and Thursdays at the Tool Shed), where anything goes after enough drinking, flirting, and jock-strap eye-candy everywhere.
So the next time you're here in Palm Springs, do you want it flirty or dirty? I suggest you start with flirty and then see where things go from there. Either way, just get into it. Embrace it. Openness and sex-positivity is the heartbeat of connecting with new people out here. And in a town this vibrant with affluent professionals, creative influencers, and fellow gays from all walks of life, you never know who you're going to meet next and how they might shape your life for the better.
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Best Gay Shopping in Palm Springs
From mid-century made modern home goods to gaycation fashion, Palm Springs is brimming with gay-owned and LGBTQIA+ businesses to patronize (along with some brand names that we all not-so-secretly love as well)…
From mid-century made modern home goods to gaycation fashion, Palm Springs is brimming with gay-owned and LGBTQIA+ businesses to patronize (along with some brand names that we all not-so-secretly love as well).
Mens short shorts are the unofficial gay dress code here in Palm Springs, so leave those straight-boy shorts at home and show us some thigh, handsome. You can start building your ST33LE Brand short shorts collection at Division Palm Springs until you've got every color of the rainbow under your belt (literally under your belt).
And while you're exploring the downtown area's signature boutiques (realizing how sexy your legs really are in those new short-shorts), be sure to check out some of our favorite spots too...
Mens Clothing
Division Palm Springs hosts a contemporary collection of tank tops, button downs, swim wear, and those highly coveted short shorts I mentioned above. If you really want to dress the part of an experienced Palm Springs gay, this is the place to shop – and it's right in the Arenas district.
GayMart USA proudly touts itself as America’s Favorite Gay Superstore. Swimsuits and underwear of all flavors are their specialty, but they've also got some fun cards, gifts, and adult novelty items (did someone say poppers)? GayMart is also in the heart of the Arenas district.
Bear Wear curates a nice selection of mens fashion, jewelry, and gifts. Philip ‘n Bruce always look forward to assisting you with your apparel needs – big men, small men, all men. And you guessed it – it's in the heart of the Arenas district.
Mr. Turk Menswear presents a swank modern resort interior that features 1970s styles with vintage flair at boujie prices. A bit further north on North Palm Canyon Drive, Mr. Turk is the baby spoon to Trina Turk Palm Springs.
Adult Gifts & Sex Shops
Rough Trade Gear Palm Springs has the hottest mens street, fetish, sport, and play gear – right in the heart of the Arenas District.
Gear Leather & Fetish has some of the best fetish goods from the world’s top makers for men who play hard. They're located on East Sunny Dunes Road, so grab a drink at the Tool Shed next door for some inspiration first.
Art, Gifts & Inspiration
Destination PSP offers uniquely fun and originally-designed merchandise. Their stylish, modern designs reflect the mid-century heritage of the Palm Springs experience. We particularly love their MCM (Mid-Century Modern) t-shirts and tissue box covers!
Just Fabulous Palm Springs is an modern lifestyle boutique offering a wide array of gifts, books, home decor that are as fun as they are inspiring.
Queertique Palm Springs is a queer lifestyle shop championing primarily independent queer artists unique art, apparel, goods, vintage and more. Be sure to take a selfie in their glamorous oversized dressing room (and then tag them in it obviously)!
The SHAG Store is the retail store for the artworks and merchandise of artist Josh Agle (aka SHAG). His style represents the vintage Palm Springs highlife, and every print is always hand signed and numbered by Shag himself.
Christopher Kennedy is Mid-Century made Modern. His home furnishings and interior design embody modern luxury and vibrant Southern California glamour.
Rancho Relaxo has a mission to inspire and delight, focusing on local artists and artisans who celebrate the spirit of Desert Modernism in their signature fashion, accessories, home decor, and gifts.
Home Furnishings & Accessories
H3K Home is a gay-owned operation specializing in design consultation, but they have a uniquely colorful showroom of Desert Modern home furnishings and accessories that would brighten anyone's day. We particularly love their Palm Strings Collection.
PS Homeboys are staging specialists with an inspiring showroom in the Arenas District that specializes in Mid-Century meets Modern home décor.
Wabi Sabi Japan Living is an ode to the “impermanence and imperfection” of Japanese art and design, featuring home goods and imported specialty groceries from Japan and Asia.
Consignment / Resale / Thrift Shops
Revivals is where all the conscientious gay locals shop, donate their furniture and appliances, contribute their art and jewelry, and volunteer their time. That's because all four (4) Revivals Stores and locations here in the Coachella Valley donates 100% of its profits to support comprehensive healthcare at DAP Health (the Desert AIDS Project) to the tune of over $1 million a year. Now that's what I call health "care"!
Misty's Consignments has room after room of professionally staged "venuets" filled with designer furniture, fine art, and more. It's an ever-rotating inventory wonderland for even the most discerning gay man (myself included)!
Antique & Vintage Furniture Shops
Antique Galleries of Palm Springs is the newest, largest, and best source for antique, vintage, and retro everything in the Coachella Valley. You'll find all sorts of random things here.
Palm Springs Vintage Market is a wonder to behold on the first Sunday of each month (8:00 am to 2:00 pm). Located at the Palm Springs Cultural Center (formerly Camelot Theatres), it has the best collection of Southern California sellers of vintage and antique furniture, art, clothing, jewelry, and home furnishings for any mid-century design enthusiast!
Wellness
The Men's Spa at La Dolce Vita is the only place where you can stay gay in town that includes a spa exclusively for gay men.
The Men’s Grooming Spot waxes where others don't. They also offer men’s massage, skin care, hair, and men’s nails with a "cool spa vibe" as the only complete men’s spa in the Coachella Valley.
World Gym Palm Springs has been referred to as the gayest gym in the world more than once since we've arrived here in Palm Springs. Think every type of gay (especially daddies and bears) wearing next-to-nothing and proudly keeping it "the" gay gym in town. Did somebody say cruising?
Daddy's Barbershop serves the LGBTQ communities and our allies with “old school barbering” and modern, sexy haircuts – right in the Arenas District.
Sunny Dunes Barber Shop is a no-frills, three-chair shop run by well-seasoned male barbers at a reasonable price.
The Vault Dispensary and Lounge promises to deliver the finest cannabis dispensary experience you can find. Their consumption lounge even features fun events, like Legendary (digital) Bingo night, hosted by comedian Deven Green & Ned Douglas!
Brand Names
Don't worry, boys – there's an H&M Palm Springs right here in the heart of downtown too for those of us who crave the familiar side of retail therapy.
West Elm Palm Springs is right next to H&M as well, so go seek some inspiration there while you're at it. Just consider supporting a local brand as well (unless you really need that sickening lamp that only West Elm can provide).
The Desert Hills Premium Outlets & Cabazon Outlets are side-by-side and just a quick 20-minute drive west of Palm Springs if you get that outlet itch. The Desert Hills Premium Outlets are the real highlight between the two, featuring all the name brands we love.
Palm Desert Shops is a great resource for where the bougier shops are. In fact, Palm Desert is where everything bougie and corporate is.
So, What's The T?
Why the Palm Springs Guys? The truth (the T) is that we wanted to create the kind of platform we were originally looking for ourselves before we moved here. There are lots of great resources available for all things gay here in Palm Springs, but none of them offered the kind of local flavor and local intel in one place that we were seeking…
*If you’re as obsessed with RuPaul's Drag Race as we are, you already know that 'The T' is another term for 'the Truth.'
If you didn’t know, well, you’re welcome.
Hey, Guys! We are Gregory and Glen (aka the Palm Springs Guys).
Consider us your new local guides to Gay Palm Springs. We’re pretty new to the high desert ourselves, so we invite you to explore the wonders of this Gaytropolis along with us, hand-in-hand (aww).
Why the Palm Springs Guys? The truth (the T) is that we wanted to create the kind of platform we were originally looking for ourselves before we moved here. There are lots of great resources available for all things gay here in Palm Springs, but none of them offered the kind of streamlined local flavor in one place that we were seeking. The Palm Springs Guys is our take on Gay Palm Springs!
While we may be new full-timers here ourselves, we hope our fresh perspective and new discoveries will become your secret weapon to Gay Palm Springs travel and pleasure. We can’t wait to share everything we learn with you along the way – all the hidden gems and the not-to-be-missed – so that you can eat, play, and stay gay here in the greater Palm Springs desert of Southern California.
The best way to follow along is through our What's The T? newsletter (which you can sign up for below)…
Like you, the pandemic served up some serious transitional realness for Glen and I – from Maryland to Marilyn (with a few places in between). If you’re curious to learn more about our backstory, check out our about page.
For now, here's some food for deep thought. After three (3) months in Palm Springs now, we are surrounded by shining examples of pride everywhere we go. Beautiful layers of pride to replace outdated layers of shame.
We’ve come a long way as gay men, but there’s still so much shame we carry in the queer community. That’s why it matters to celebrate who we are. That’s why gay communities that flourish in destinations like Palm Springs are so important – and why destinations like Palm Springs are only baby steps in the right direction in acknowledging generations of shame and struggle.
Glen and I are 40 years old now. We’ve been lucky in both our lives, but we’re finally PROUD to be who we are. We are no longer ashamed – and we’re reminded of that every day out here so far.
Come visit us sometime!
Cheers,
Glen & Gregory, The Palm Springs Guys
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